rush rush redo rush

Would you give the same, "Grow where God plants you" advice to the two girls that whined and started this mess?

Fair question. I guess it's how you look it, but some would say they did bloom where they were planted, which was kept out of something because of race and deciding to fight it. I think the circumstances, and if they can be changed, would have something to do with how someone could "bloom," or make the best of where they are. As for girls who are already in sororities, and not happy, I just don't know if a rerush would improve things, mainly because people who depledge don't usually have good results next time around on the same campus. That's just the facts, so in that case, making the best of where they are seems to be the better way to go. I hope some more people will comment on this, though, because I'd like to hear opinions about depledging and rerushing in this kind of situation.

And did the two girls actually bring this out or was it the sorority members who talked to the CW? I can't remember if the article really said.

No, you can't redo recruitment. But, I don't blame girls that stuck it out and followed advice and pledged somewhere that wasn't their first choice that feel like they followed the rules and got screwed for it. They probably are stuck and most of the time rerushing after depledging doesn't work out well. Plenty of great girls do have bad recruitments and I know some trainwrecks that have had great recruitments. I am sure some of the houses would love to have had some of the next girls down on their bid lists, too. Life isn't fair even when you play by the rules. But, if anybody else whines about not getting a bid or not getting a bid to where they wanted, they get told to put on their big girl pants and go on or that there is something wrong with them.

^ That's because the majority of the time (not ALL the time), girls think they deserve to be in a "higher ranked house" than what they got and can't accept that they were rejected. They tend to have a too-good-for-this-place chip on their shoulder which is what makes them miserable. That's why they get told to put on their big girl pants. They're adults, not little kids. Life isn't fair, you don't always get your first choice and the sooner people accept that, the better.

I understand what you're saying about some girls feeling the way they do. I really do and I didn't get my first choice either when I went through. I just think you have to look at your situation and be really honest about what you can do about it. Now that I've been here for a few years and seen how recruitment goes, I'd just never tell someone to depledge and try again. I really have never seen it work out. Maybe it has, but I don't know about it happening here. No matter who the person is, I'd say if you want to be Greek at Alabama and are in a sorority, stay there and make it the best experience you can. I can't see myself in any other sorority than where I ended up, even though it wasn't my first choice. I have a friend who pledged at another school last year and ended up with her third choice. In the bid day pictures on FB, she looked like she was about to cry, then she was up and down the whole first semester and I kept waiting for her to drop, but she didn't. This year, she went back to school like a different person. She loves her sorority and can't believe how unhappy she was a year ago. For her, it didn't happen overnight, but it did happen as she got to know people better and got more and more into it.

And there has been a lot of dumb things.

This is probably the most accurate and real post I've ever seen on GR

this!

this!

Tell her to try her hardest to make friends, make good grades and keep a good reputation this semester. She could always go back through rush as a soph and if she has become VERY good friends with girls in a certain house or in a few houses and if she has great grades she could possible get another chance.